Ready to Pop the Question?

Every couple should have a checklist before they make such a powerful commitment. Ask yourself and your mate these questions to make sure you are fully prepared. 



1.       What do I see that I am not looking at in the relationship?

  • Now is not the time to brush things under the rug.  FACE FACTS! Be brutally honest with yourself. 

  • Discuss these issues with your fiancé and seek help on how to deal with them.


2.      Am I prepared to weather every climate of my marriage?

  • Marriage has seasons. Sometimes the climate can be hot, and sometimes cold for any number of reasons. 

  • You can’t pack up and move to another state because you’re under a tornado watch.  You must have the love and determination to weather the storm.


3.      Is this person qualified and equipped to be a spiritual leader in our home and a spiritual role model for our children?

  • Is there a hunger to grow spiritually?

  • Will he/she hear from God on issues regarding us?


4.      Are we financially prepared for this move? 

  • What is our 10 year Financial Plan?


5.      To what extent have we proven to be willing to sacrifice our own personal desires for our spouse? 

  •  i.e. time, money, dreams, living patterns


6.      If the person was married before, or involved in a previous serious relationship, what specific steps have they taken to deal with the issues that caused the break up and heal their broken heart?

  • Infidelity

  • Fear of Commitmen

  • Mistreatment of mate


7.      Do any family, friends, children or exes pose a threat or intrusion into our relationship? 

  • If so, how will we deal with it?

  • Do we have individual concrete plans on how to deal with intrusive external relationships?


8.      What is my mate’s work ethic?

  • Is he/she balanced in the number of hours they work each week?

  • Am I a priority when planning his/her time and money?


9.      Does my mate communicate to me regularly in my love language?

  • Has my mate studied me for the purpose of being pleasing to me?


10.  Are we emotionally mature enough to make a lifelong commitment at this time?


11.  Are we spiritually mature enough to know that we have heard from God concerning marriage at this time, with this person?

  • Do we have a peace in our spirits concerning our decision?


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